Love is the most beautiful thing that two people can share together. Shakespeare tells us that love is blind. Love is confusing, and sometimes we get lost in it. It can take your breath away, freeze time, make nothing else matter. When your soul melts into another. Love between two people is the act of being ‘in love’. When two become one. Being ‘in love’ is completely different than other kinds of love we see in our lives. Like the love for a parent, child, sibling or a pet, etc. There really isn’t any clear way to explain love. It is undefinable. It is another chapter in my paradoxes of life. Love can come and sweep two people off their feet! It can be in the air we breathe, it can be musical, it can be unreal, so close to perfect, like a dream come true. Love has been said to conquer all! Love is soup for our hearts and souls. We believe, when we find our love, that it was brought to us by fate, or karma. We can fall into love so quickly that we are blinded by the wild cliché of having found our soul mate. (I’ve already touched base on soul mates)
You can’t just stop loving someone. The heart doesn’t work that way. This is, the other side of love… when love is the most confusing, most painful, most heart breaking part of someone’s life. Your love suddenly falls out of love with you and you are left devistated and broken. Or you fall out of love and its you who are responsible for breaking ones heart & soul. Love is now very hard. Love has you sad and lost, lonely and confused. Love has you believing that its all over!! Love has you believing that you will never love again!! Love has you eating too much ice cream, while the tears fall to the sound of all the music the two of you listened to. When a love has come to an end, it can also make a person crazy-mad, and do some crazy things, but I won’t get into that… just leave it to the wild imagination or to the crazy ‘end of love’ things we have already seen or heard before. Love. There is so much power in love. Love is such a strong word.
Hate is misunderstood. Its love in disguise. Hate is love on fire! Hate, like love, is a very strong word. To spend time actually hating someone, you really don’t realize that you have to have some feelings toward them, either loving, or caring about them in some way, in the first place. I really can’t say that its possible to ‘hate’ some thing or someone that you dont feel passionate about. Now, I’m not saying to dislike something you gotta love it first! Disliking someone or something is casual, less dramatic, less passionate. To just have distaste or to dislike is effortless. Its more or less just your opinion. Hatred takes much more energy! This is why when I hear someone use the word ‘hate’, or love, I ask them, “do you really…?”. I follow that with, “Love/hate is such a strong word…”. This usually gets the persons attention and they then reevaluate their feelings and/or choice of words. Yes, to hate is to love… on another level.
Love/hate relationships = so confusing!! I could write about love and relationships until the day I die & still not have said it all, or figured it all out!! Look how many hundreds of thousands already write about this subject matter..? And we continue to do so, and study love, and learn about love… yea… its another paradox, and different for each one of us. So what’s up with the love/ hate controversy? Its just this: in the history of love we do know one thing. We know that you cannot choose who you love. So when you find yourself loving someone and its just to the point where it is more exhausting, takes too much effort, when you’re not getting loved back, when the love has lost its luster… you find yourself saying just this… “I HATE TO LOVE YOU!!”
Love is something that I need to survive. I am a very loving person. In some situations, I find myself giving too much love to the wrong, sometimes undeserving, people. I have written so much about love, and yet, I still know so little. I am a hopeless romantic! I love love!! I’m learning how to have ‘healthy’ love. As I continue to age, live, experience and grow… love still confuses the hell out of me. That is all for now.
For a beautiful Poetic Duet on LOVE written by a beautiful friend of mine, HASTYWORDS & her duet partner Matthew Morales click HERE. The piece is called IT’S UP TO ME.