Soul-Mates <3

imagesCA6WLJLT  My Souls Mate…

The very thought of just one person being meant for each of us, leaves us with a very unattainable love situation.  With the population of the world being over six billion, you mean to tell me that if soul-mates exist, I have a one in six billion chance of finding that person…?  Huh!  So, this makes me smirk a little at the vast ridiculousness of the whole situation.  And thinking about all of the people we will meet in our life time, how is it that, again, only one single person, will touch our souls in such a remarkable and memorable way, in such a way that we instantly know that this is the one soul parallel to mine, or yours, that I, or you, is meant to be with, for the rest of my, or your, life?  How can we possibly know that?!?  

There are many things to take into consideration here, as well.  Like how we grow and change so much every year.  With that growth, our wants and needs change too.  I certainly don’t want the same things that I did, say, ten years ago.  More recent than that, my wants and needs are different now than they were five years ago!  I have found myself to be much more independent.  I think about my future all the time, as opposed to living flying by the seat, sporadic and spur of the moment, when my motto was still ‘Carpe Diem’ and I’s sooner die than to live with any regrets!  Fortunately, as I have aged, I am much more calm and settled into myself.  I have found the real important things for myself and my soul.  I have, in my thirty-one years, really molded into my identity.

With that said, I am also a married woman.  I think about this concept of soul-mates and sometimes I like to believe that the man I chose to stand with for the rest of my life, is in fact my souls mate… but… also… the probability of me being so lucky as to find my soul-mate, against the statistics and all the odds, I find very unlikely.  Not to be a pessimist, but I am not very lucky.  Fortunate, yes… but lucky, no!!  If there is a lottery, I won’t be the winner.  If there is a raffle, I won’t be taking home the prize.  If there is a bet to make, I won’t be cashing in on that either… get my point?  I’m not lucky.  So, did I marry my soul-mate?  In the grand scheme of things, was I lucky enough in life to have actually found the mate to my soul…?

Maybe we have two soul-mates?  Maybe we can have a hundred!  If you ask me, I can tell you that my soul seeks different things from different people, but my soul also seeks things every day.  Maybe what we are looking for one day, can be found in crossing paths with someone.  I know that there have been times in my life that I’ve met someone, and only once, and they have touched my soul in a very memorable way.  Sometimes, someone says something, and it’s exactly what I needed to hear that day… strange how the world works, when a total stranger can mend some part of you, with a few words, without even knowing it.  It circles back to the paradox of this world, and how many unanswered questions we all have.

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Is there really one person in this world that is meant for me? And when we are born, are we each cosmically matched up with one soul mate..?  With such small chances of us actually finding this person.. how many of us actually do? How many of us actually don’t.  Is the idea of soul-mates something that the hopeful romantics use to keep their hearts beating?  If so, what’s wrong with that anyway?  I don’t think that people should feel left out or tragically sad if their life changes and the person they thought was their soul-mate suddenly changes.  I think that is ok!  Maybe you have learned all you were intended to from that one soul, and now it’s time to move on the next one that’s going to leave remarkable and memorable impressions on your heart.

I like the idea of soul-mates… but my theory of these soul-mates is not traditional!  But then again, there is nothing traditional about me!!  That is all for now… ❤

~ Jen

Sarcasm – The Sugar Coated Insult

 Sarcasm is witty language used to convey insults or scorn. You are actually saying the opposite of what you mean to make a joke. 
 
Sarcasm can be so much fun! It takes a level of intelligence to: 1. Be quick and witty enough to use sarcasm at the right moments and 2. To comprehend when sarcasm is being used, either towards you or someone else. Not everyone has the ability to use sarcasm.  When it is used properly, it can surely cut someone down to size, displaying how uneducated, irrational, or just plain stupid someone is. Sarcasm can be harsh, bitter derisional or ironic. 
 
 Sarcasm is a sharply ironical taunt; sneering or cutting remark: a review full of sarcasms.
Say somebody is wearing a really ugly shirt, and you go and tell them “nice shirt” that’s an example of sarcasm. Or say you are really bored and aren’t having any fun at all and you’re like “well.. this is fun…” that’s another example of sarcasm.

 Sarcasm is a form of irony where a person says the opposite of what is really meant, almost a clever way to be offensive, insulting or rude. 
 
It’s a completely fake-polite form of communication in which the person using sarcasm is given the opportunity to cut someone down in a sugar-coated linguistic that leaves the other person scratching their head, thinking, ‘Did I just get insulted? or not?’. If the person, however, picks up in the sarcasm, they then have the chance to rebuttal with opposing sarcasm, but this takes, as I said earlier, quick wit and intelligence, and, unfortunately for some, not everyone can respond quick enough to the original sarcastic remark to earn their place as a sharp-tongued individual and master of the english language. For example, if a boss loads extra work on you when you already feel overworked and you say, “Thanks a lot,” that would be sarcastic, because you really don’t feel thankful at all. You feel quite the opposite, in fact. If the boss picked up on this quickly enough, he/she could respond, “oh you’re so welcome! You’re enthusiasm is appreciated, in fact, how would you like to give a lecture to the staff tomorrow on maintaining enthusiasm in the office?” (Shiiiiiiiiiiit…)
 
 Sarcasm is quite common. You’ll hear it dozens of times a day if you keep your ears open.
 
Yes. It is true. Sarcasm is all around us. I was trained by a black belt in sarcasm growing up, so as an adult, I am quite good at being sarcastic, and at times, I really enjoy using this particular kind of communicating! It’s basically objecting, or pretending not to know about the blindingly obvious. But I mostly enjoy using it towards other people and seeing if they are smart or quick enough to realize that they have just been politely insulted. 
 
 Here are a few examples of what sarcasm is:
 
Saying something you don’t really mean… Usually in order to get laughter.

If someone tells a joke and it isn’t funny. Someone says hahaha. They don’t actually think its funny…
 
Sarcasm is where you say something but you don’t really mean it e.g i love homework it’s so fun.
 
A tone of voice of which shouldn’t be taken seriously 🙂
 
Saying something without being straight forward…
 
The use of irony to mock or convey contempt.
 
Saying the opposite of what you really mean and saying it in a snide way.
 
 
So, sarcasm are particular displays of understatement or overstatement to convey insult or irony with a bitter, sharp or cutting intent or to ridicule or mock harshly.
 
Of course, sarcasm isn’t always making appearances in my life.  I choose the right and appropriate moments in which I insert sarcasm.  But when it’s called for, when the mood is right, I’m always armed with the quick, witty banter of sarcasms charms and have had quite a bit of practice using it. Tha art of my sarcasm can only continue to improve itself the more I use and practice it, and for those who my sarcasm is directed at, (smiling..), I hope you know that I appreciate the opportunity to display my intelligence against the lack of yours. 🙂
 
And… That’s all for now.
 
~ Jen
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Complicated Escalations of the World

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Another one of those times when I’m lost in my mind, debating the contradictions, what is socially acceptable & what is not, hypocrites and the judgemental who create a certain persona that they are, I despise even typing it because it makes me sick, the perfect person. Those who strive for perfection only set themselves up for failure, so stop trying so hard to get the world to see you a certain way, that which you think is personal perfection only for internal gratification, that image of you, yourself having all things figured out…isn’t that exhausting? Who cares? Why do so many people care what everyone else thinks? Keep in mind, most people don’t have a clue what really goes on in a person’s life except those close to them. So the next time you hear something, seriously consider the source. If you don’t, and you internalize an automatic belief that what you’re hearing is true, you have just become the idiot.
Social trends can explode through out our society. What we are exposed to when we are young adults, going back to high school, post high school and into college can shape and mold us more than we are ever aware of at that time. There are things we do out of curiosity, peer pressure, coping mechanisms or ways to escape reality, and even things that are honestly fun and constitute a rockin good time…

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But where is
The line of what is socially acceptable as we travel into adulthood? Consumption is okay but in moderation, right? The escalating complications of the world, all human inflicted, continue to stir quite the controversy. If, a persons extracurricular desires don’t create utter chaos and havoc in their life, are they still considered a delinquent? A black sheep, bad seed, negative influence, an outcast, shameful or of bad or no values, or a person with integrity or having wholesome goodness? And who in this world is so “holier than thou” that they get to make these judgements?  Especially if they are guilty of obtaining their facts from sources other than direct and further more, use only those second-hand words from others in which to base their judgements upon a person and then recycle them, when in fact, they have only known of that person… they have never been a part of the person’s life. So there is no, one on one, actual real-time spent to collectively say, “yes, indeed, I have gotten to know him or her”. 

‘Labels’ that are placed on us as we develop ourselves, are not always correct. In fact, most times I’d say they are dead wrong. This is due to the truth that, especially when we are in the young adult phase of our lives, we experiment with our character to find what fits. We go through many changes before we ‘settle’ into ‘who we really are’. Making those ‘labels’ that others place on our shoulders null and void. Again, who ever said that just because one person said one thing about another, that it is justifiably true!?! Furthermore… who deserves to permanently get stuck in their past except those who have self chosen to not learn by their past and stays there themselves?
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Personally, I have owned my life. It took time for this to happen. I was not born with these wisdoms.  I earned them through time, through out my life. I also own my past. This took a very long time to happen. But I’m not living in my past at all, so who is the one stuck there?

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I know I have to check in with myself all the time. How do I perceive myself today? Am I able to distinguish myself as real? Do I live my truths, beliefs and virtues? Do I rise above second-hand information and do I restrain myself from recycling it? Do I care about my labels or others labels? And do I lose sleep over judge mental nobodies? (Smiling) I’ve come along way…

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Unafraid
to be myself… I’m ready to put another day to rest, under the moon, I’m so tiny compared to the magnificent miracles of this world, but this world wouldn’t be complete… without the miracle of me.
~ Jen