Because, I am

image

I woke up smiling today.
I do that most days…
It has been a long (last 3 years) …
But here I am… because of these amazing things —>
°°°
Because I am strong
I wake up smiling
Because I don’t give up
I am alive to tell my stories
Because I am resilient
I am able to still be kind to everyone
Because I persevere
I am able to continue to work hard
Because I am kind
I am able to practice empathy
Because I am self sufficient
I am able to be generous
Because I am understanding
I am able to understand others
Because I am humble
I am able to avoid ignorance
Because I am selfless
I am able to put others first
Because I am brave, I am able to keep fighting… And because I love myself, I am able to take care of ME… and because I am able to take care of me, I am able to be a fierce & strong mother to my son!

°°°
Life has taught me many lessons, and here I am to tell my stories! We All Fall Down, but what defines our character How We rise above!

☆Tryst☆

Change – Daily Reflection on Tryst – 10/21/13

Daily Reflection on Tryst

October 21, 2013

‘Change your thoughts, Change your world’ – Unknown

e9820d53a18b64e0185845aa7db2f0a8

Good Morning my favorite group of people!! How long has it been since I’ve written a Daily Reflection? It has been way too long!! Here is where I feel the need to explain myself in great detail, as to why I stopped writing Daily Reflections for you and for myself, and then follow that with an apology for my lack of motivation, lack of inspiration, for my laziness and for my disbelief in my self and thinking that no one really gives a shit about the things that I try to reflect upon, the things that I try to help myself (and others) with by expanding the mind a little, the thinking outside the box and trying to create healthy patterns amongst all of our necessary and unnecessary ones.

Well, I don’t really need to explain. Life just had me doing other things. My need to inspire and motivate both myself and others is still here, and the beauty of writing and blogging, is that I can pick up right where I left off.

I also don’t need to apologize because I have not done anything wrong. And nothing is more irritating or a waste of time than an empty apology. There is no reason to ever say ‘sorry’ unless you have justifiably done something that needs an apology before moving forward.

This is not one of those situations.

And what about my lack of inspiration, motivation or have I been lazy? Nope. I still have those things, I was just channeling them in other areas. And I am far from lazy. In fact, for those who know me, or keep in touch with me, know that I have about a million things going on … good things (my businesses & work), sad things (the trial) and fun things (my little hobbies & projects).

Today I choose to reflect on the fantastic quote I posted above. I am sure that many of you have heard that quote at one time or another. It is quite well-known and it is spoken by many who understand the meaning of it.

When you find yourself thinking negatively, about yourself, or others, or life, or the things you have, or the things you don’t have, or anything you can think of under the moon, then you will notice that most things about your day will also be negative.

Do you ever notice how much better you feel when you smile? Did you know that it takes more energy and more muscles in your face to frown? Did you know that wearing a smile actually reduces stress or stressful situations? Did you know that this is all based on the core of your frame of mind?

Well, now you do know!!

This is absolutely true!! When you change the way you think, and change it in a positive way, you will notice that life becomes less stressful, less painful and easier to deal with!!!

So, today, make a change in the way you are thinking about a situation. If there is something going on that you have been dreading, or avoiding or wishing you didn’t have to do, change your thoughts!! What will you gain from doing it? What can you learn? There is always something positive you can pull out of every single situation. So change your thinking and just do it!!

You can also try smiling today. If you work with people, smile at them. Notice that people smile back when someone is outwardly friendly to them. I smile a lot. People notice in my pictures and when I am at work. It always feels better to smile. But I also wear a frown sometimes, I am human after all, and so this reflection is for me, to remind myself that it is always better to smile through the hard times and to change my ‘stinking thinking’!!! That shitty ‘stinking thinking’ gets us no where!!!

Be the change … Be positive … Smile at the world today!!!

XO ~ Jen

*****

 imagesCA8Q9SE7

 

©Think. Speak. Tryst. Publication

 

Whispers … (Revisited)

This is something I wrote some time ago for my Soul to Shine space. Tryst is, and will always be, my main blog writing space with the most content and the deepest looks into my truths and my realities … but I created my little Soulshine space for the little pieces with a BIG meaning.

The history and story of what Soulshine is to me and how it came about in my life is something that I have not really shared in great detail. For those who know me, understand what Soulshine is just by knowing me and how my energy works. I am alive in my heart, I am alive in my spirit and everywhere I go, I am a giver and sharer of my Soulshine. I honestly can’t imagine being any other way … and why would I? This is who I am.

Sometimes fewer words have a much bigger impact. That is what you will find in Soul To Shine.

Here on Tryst, I write much more …

I cut and paste this little bit because it suddenly POPPED up in my notifications the other day, and as I said, I wrote it some time ago. This little notification brought me to this piece and I read through it.

This was a Free Write. And one of my favorite Free Writes. So I wanted to share it here … because, well, because I just did.

I hope it reaches someone … anyone … even just one single soul … and they enjoy reading the words as much as I did when writing them.

XoXo

1ad653e28d6b0eace24ad70e2e214671

Whispers

…she is the moon, up in the sky… she becomes the stars, when you make her cry… her music sings painful melodic blues, telling of times when she had felt used… when you hear her whispering words in the air, listen closely to what you hear… she is telling you that the world can be cold, but you can still have love that is warm to hold… she will tell you that pain will make you stronger, by giving you wisdom to living longer… she will tell you to be aware of all of your time, because time is short and you can’t rewind… she will tell you that yesterday has come and gone, don’t live in the past, it’s a truthful song… she whispers that love is the ultimate gift, to have, to hold, to give, and to wish… so love with your heart, and let your soul shine on through, and never, ever, stop being true to you…

 …Jen Lefever

*****

imagesCA8Q9SE7

  ©Think. Speak. Tryst. Publication

Beautiful Mistake

A Passionate-Romantic Duet

Written by Neeraj of Pieces ~ Exposing Emotion & Think Speak Tryst

e7c211ccf1ab8b0e29c19589a77a6cbe 

Beautiful Mistake

 Riding onto you,

 

I knew I was making mistake,

 

When in my mouth I had your taste,

 

Crushing my dignity,

 

For all the pleasure to take,

 

I didn’t want anything to waste,

 

So I opened my mouth,

 

To grab a piece of you,

 

It wasn’t going to be easy,

 

Ah, I wish I knew,

 

 

 

Heat and fire,

 

From your dark, intense eyes

 

Penetrate my heart,

 

Beating faster and faster, in this moment

 

I go to speak, but can’t

 

I should not take you back,

 

But here you are, and I’m your toy,

 

Teasing me, you are so coy,

 

As I melt into you,

 

 

 

Umm… It’s delicious feeling you all over me,

 

Don’t stop that finger that you run over me,

 

I’m your slave, feel me,

 

Explore my curves,

 

Explore the heights,

 

Get into the center and rewrite,

 

My destiny,

 

 

 

Skin on skin

 

Heat moving between us

 

Silent we are with words

 

As our language of the body

 

Says it all

 

This moment is timeless

 

You are breathtaking

 

Tracing your lips

 

I must feel your embrace

 

I will never forget this time and place

 

 

 

Let me feel this feeling so rapture,

 

Let me taste everything,

 

Let me (every moment) capture,

 

What I’m doing I have no clue,

 

As you’re moving deeper inside me,

 

And I, inside you,

 

And I wish I knew,

 

After you there would be no place,
 
But lets not stop making beautiful mistakes.
 
 
– Neeraj Kumar & Jen of Tryst
 
 
..Visit the poetic beauty of Neeraj by following this link..
 
 
*****
imagesCAJZ4VYS
 
 
 ©Think. Speak. Tryst. Publication

 

ღDaily Reflection on Trystღ (04/25/13)

Daily Reflection (04/25/13)

 40f7eadb22b90ad32713b5e1b3f3238f

So Damn Disappointed!!

 

 “If you don’t like something, change it.
If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”

Mary Englebreit

 

There are so many things going on in my life right now. I am trying to balance everything, stay afloat, stay productive, and remain positive and healthy. These are all good things that we all need to maintain good/healthy lives. Well, things don’t always go as planned, or as expected. When we interact with other’s, or put expectations on others, whether or not those people follow through, can leave us satisfied, or diappointed.

That is why I preach and preach that it is so super important to always have your own back!! You can always count on yourself… yet… even we let ourselves down sometimes, right?

The feeling of being disappointed is not a good one. Depending on the situation, it can make us sad, frustrated, mad, or absolutely berserk or irate!! Last night, I felt some disappointment that make me berserk and irate!! And as I was sitting there, feeling all of these emotions that came in a terrential emotional mini-drama, sadness, rage, utterly hurt… I had to let myself feel these things and work my way through this shitty situation in a positive way with out causing more drama or havoc by making things worse by being just completely out of control.

So I did some thinking.

First, I let myself feel the disappointment. It’s ok to feel this. I checked in and acknowledged what I was feeling. It’s ok to feel this way. Just don’t dwell on it!! I told myself to go ahead and feel whatever I was feeling, but not get stuck on it… and then move on.

Then I focused on the big picture of the situation. Looking into the details of my ‘Shitty let down’. Perspective in really important… but this is where I tuned into some gratitude. What did I have, as opposed to the things I felt I missed? This is that positive thinking that can be tough at times, but no matter how let down you are, you need to remember that you still have things to be grateful for, and recognizing them will help pull your mind out of that dark place.

Next, I asked myself if there was anything I could change about the situation. Well, in most cases, when the damage is done, it is irreverseable… but there are still things you can do to move on, right? In my case, I couldn’t change what had happened. It was too late. It was already in the past. And we all know that we can’t change the past, we can’t go back there… so move the hell on!! I don’t live in the past. I live in the present. Is there anything I can do to prevent this from being a future disappointment, yes! There is.. now I am getting somewhere!!

Change the way you see things!! Like the quote above. It’s easy to wallow in self pity… but who wants to do that? I hate being in that place! No good comes of it! If you want to handle your disappointment in a positive way, change the way you think about it. Re-frame your mind on the whole situation… and figure out things you can do instead.

Hope. Believe that there is hope. Have some hope!! When facing disappointments, it’s so easy to be beaten down, to believe that situations are hopeless, and to give up the belief that things will eventually work out. No matter what you do, don’t let your let down bring you completely down. Keep reminding yourself to have hope and know that, despite the fresh pain of a new disappointment, you always have the ability to hope for good things coming your way in the future. Believe in yourself. Believe in hope.

I hope you all have a super great day Tryst Family!!

And remember, No matter you’re facing, no matter how hard it is, don’t forget that you are not alone.

Tryst Thought: Every day people face disappointments of all kinds — from a tiny missed opportunity to a life-altering letdown — and every day people overcome these difficulties and move forward with their lives. Initially it might seem difficult, but handling disappointments well is an essential part of living a positive life. If you want to live positively in the present moment, you must let go of life’s letdowns and focus on the good things in your life. Easy? Not always. Essential? Absolutely.

XoXo Jen

*****

1b99e5c27923ac01563a4e08fe3e31d9

 
 ©Think. Speak. Tryst. Publication
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Daily Reflection on Trystღ (02/21/13)

Daily Reflection (02/21/13)

imagesCAOHVQA1

Snowpalooza / Snowmagedon / Tryst Blizzard!!

 Holla Tryst!! Oh, how I missed you!! It’s been 24 hours since my last post and let me tell you, it felt weird not writing yesterday. But, I needed a day. Just one whole day where I did a whole lot of nothing. I reflected like crazy, though!! Mental reflecting. Well, I did do some writing, I can’t lie, but no publishing. Just some scribbling, here and there, jotting down thoughts, playing with words that rhyme, making up some words, but not much else.

I was real down in the dumps yesterday. I wrote a few pieces that were, full of sadness, to say the least.. maybe I’ll share… maybe not. (?) Let me tell the world what’s going on here today. Highways are shut down. Businesses are closed, as of last night. Schools are out. People are snowed in their homes, literally, snowed in!! The few that think they have somewhere pressing to be, took their cars out in this snowpalooza, and are now stuck in ditches, snowbanks, and have slid off the roads everywhere, into the white abyss. You are unable to see further than 50 feet ahead, what they call white out conditions. The city has declared a winter weather emergency. I’ve never seen anything quite like it, here in the midwest, ever!!

 imagesCAJQ10LZ

I lived in Salt Lake City for five years when I was in college. We had snow like this there, obviously, but the feet of snow fell in the mountains, not often did SLC get feet of snow in the valley, but it did happen. The demographic is used to that kind of weather out there, so it’s not quite the news as it is here. For KC, this is something to see…

So, I took a personal day yesterday, and it looks as though mother nature is giving me another day today. Snow is packed up two feet high on my back porch!! Taller than both of my cute, little puppies who are staring out the window wondering how they are going to go potty in this blizzard!! ( I will have to bust out the shovel when duty calls for my sweet little babies, and make sure they have their hoodies on cause it’s really cold!! )

 imagesCADVTCCP

Today I’m seeking inspiration. What inspires me? What inspires you? Is it reading a great biography, watching amazing things on TV or the news? Looking at art, reading poetry, researching things of interest? Well, all of these things inspire me. I paint. I don’t call myself an artist, but I do throw some oil and acrylic on canvases from time to time and call it art. Abstract mostly, because with abstract it can be anything you want it to be, and it’s whatever to whoever looks at it. I like the freedom from painting abstract. Maybe I’ll paint today…

Inspiration is good for the spirit.

It’s a way to free and expand your mind.

Step out of your box and take a new road from the one you travel on everyday.

I look out the window and this blizzard is still coming down hard!! It’s not supposed to stop all day…

 imagesii

For those of you, out in other parts of the world, enjoy whatever mother nature is bringing you!! Whether its warm sunshine, or cool rain. Something I did when I was on the inside was imagine I was on a beach, sitting in the sun. I’ve sat on some beautiful beaches all over this world and even though I was locked up in there, my mind was still free. That is something, a freedom, that no one can take from you.

Find your inspiration today…

Find your freedom, using your mind…

And… Have a beautiful day Tryst friends!! ~ Jen

Oh, and don’t worry about me… If I need to go anywhere, I’ll just take my snowboard!!!

Tryst Thought: Art is anything you want it to be… Art is writing, art is music, art is painting, building, creating. We are all artists. What does your spirit create?

 181973641163572772_7iKEG9zH_b

©Think. Speak. Tryst. Publication